How do you deal with your angry reactions? Do you manage them somehow or just throw a tantrum when you are over the edge already and just looking for a foe to let off steam? Plenty of techniques are awaiting you to help you manage this useful yet so powerful emotion. The underlying message is what also matters, that is, your temperament and how you read people’s facial expressions and reaction. Anger can also fester and evolve into a kind of crippling phenomena that turns your life into an unmatched misery. Frustration is a younger brother of anger and they go hand in hand for whatever reason. So how to keep things in check?
What actually matters is your upbringing, the way parents taught you to channel your anger or perhaps it was seen as an undesirable quality (yes) for you to be swept under the rug. The spectrum of human emotions features anger as a normal yet sometimes an overwhelming thing, and the key to that is often lost by so many people, especially when under much pressure. The old part of the brain is then called upon and people fly off the handle seeing red, the frontal lobe is therefore no more. To be more precise it is the amygdala that makes you lose control and floods your body with cortisol, that adds on to stress. You are in a fight or flight mode. Now with no techniques for managing anger and if you are naturally prone to angry outbursts at the smallest slight, then it is likely that you could develop and have a personality type A that are often seen as pouty, irritable, bad tempered, aggressive, you name it. Biology issues will be here at work, nevertheless, with some practice, particularly of metta meditation or lovingkindness, things are supposedly going to work leaving your mind much calmer.
Alternate Courses of Action
However, as with any habits, you might have developed with time, breaking out of the negative cycle is definitely hard. One way to look at it is as a form of self investment. Why not? Of course no one is forbidding you to splurge on a spa message here and there, but with those tricks in the bag you become your own inner masseur. Not that much about massaging your ego, but smoothing and soothing your inner parts or subselves, as some prefer to call them.
So one thing is to find solace inside, which can be spurred on while walking or simply being close to nature, enjoying some views and talking to people. The touch or a good read are sometimes more than enough, but for those whose souls are contaminated with malice and easy anger, this will not do. Enter anger management and thought analysis.
What is the upside of all this? Like you could not have guessed. Are you so happy with all those angry outbursts at your relatives, co-workers and employees? Chances are you might not like that about yourself, but came to accept it as a given. Perhaps a change will do you good even if you are not that much into some solitary time to tune into youe deepest fears and feelings.